Where Are We Looking?
It is a
spring evening. A group of 15 and 16 year olds are gathered in a
small upstairs classroom in Downtown St. Albert. We are there for our
first classroom session in the Driver Training program. After
ascertaining how many of us have already had at least one in-car
session the instructor asks if any of us had been told to stop
looking at the center line on the road. As I recall many or most of us
had been given that instruction.
How
could the instructors tell where we were looking?
Because
when you look (especially if you look intently) at something for too
long you tend to aim at it. When student drivers focus too much on
the center line then the center of the car tends to end up going over
that marking. Instead we were taught to aim for the center of the
lane, not to stare at it, you still have to keep glancing around and
be aware of your surroundings, but to aim for that, keep the car
there, don’t stare at the line.
The
irony of course is that we would have been carefully watching that
line to make sure we stayed on the right side of it.
I think
the same principle holds in much of our lives. The place we direct
our focus, whether we do it because that is our goal or because that
is the place we want to avoid, tends to be where we end up steering.
Add in interpretive factors like optimism vs pessimism and if we
aren’t careful we will end up in totally the wrong lane – or even
the wrong place. So where are you looking?
As life
comes along at you where are you looking? Are you spending too much
time looking in the rearview or side mirrors? Are you shoulder
checking so carefully that you don’t realize the wheel is turning
as you turn your head? (Full disclosure, this was a mark of my early
driving lessons) Or are you keeping an eye on what is behind or on
either side but maintaining a primary focus in front of you. Not too
far ahead, but farther than the tip of the bumper. How is that
determining where you end up?
I think
this idea of looking in the right direction, the idea that where we
look is where we steer, applies to communities as well. If we as a
community spend too much time looking back at some “Golden Age”
we might find ourselves running off the road. If we spend too much
time looking enviously at neighbours who appears to be doing ‘better’
(whatever we think better might mean) we might miss the place we need
to turn. If we focus on those things that we think limit us we might
steer directly towards them. If we stare at what is directly ahead of
us we might miss what is farther out and fail to plan for what may
come later.
Of
course the challenge when having this discussion in community is that
there are so many pairs of eyes. More pairs of eyes to have
different ideas of where we should be looking and so we may bog down
debating where we need to focus. At the same time the benefit of
doing it in community is there are so many pairs of eyes. Some people
can look to the sides and share what they see. Some can look behind
and remind us from whence we came. Some can look right in front of
the bumper to keep us in the moment. Some look farther down into the
distance to see what is coming up. And some sit in their seat and
scroll through Google Maps dreaming about where we might end up.
So
where are we, the congregation of St. Paul’s United Church,
looking?
As a
part of the visioning discussions of the last year we were asked
where we saw this congregation in 5 or 10 years. That, I think, was
the most important question we asked. Where is the road taking us? Do
we want to change the path? That, I think, is why when Karen and
Paula first presented the results to council they had us look at the
answers to that question first.
Where
are we looking? Are we looking at where we once were? At where we are
worried we might be headed? Or at where we dream to go? As a
community of faith there is
another
big question. Are
we looking at where we want to go or are we looking for signposts of
where God wants us to go? What
do we see in all those various directions?
We
tend to go where we are looking. It was true for that group of
teenagers starting driver training. It is true for individuals
planning their lives. It is true for communities. Together, let us
try to look in the right direction, so we head that way.
Gord